About me

My Story

Hello there! I’m Micaela Elizabeth, a mom of two beautiful, rambunctious boys, and I’m thrilled to connect with you! As a fellow mom with ADHD, I understand the unique challenges we face in managing our time, tasks, and emotions. My passion is to support and empower moms like us to break free from the cycle of overwhelm and guilt. Together, let’s discover practical solutions to tame the chaos, crush our to-do lists, and savor precious moments with our loved ones. Oh, and if we can manage it, giving ourselves time to genuinely relax too! It’s a tall order but I have learned that little things add up to big things so I know we can do it. I’m here to share my experiences, tips, and resources to help you embrace your strengths, embrace your ADHD superpowers, and enjoy a more balanced, joyful life. Lets do this momma!

My name is Micaela Elizabeth and before I go on, it’s pronounced ma-kai-la with a long “i” in the middle. I love my name and the story behind it, but it always bothered me when people see it written before they hear how it’s said and call me the wrong name. There’s a funny story to go with it but that’s for another time. So, thank you for reading my disclaimer.

I am a wife and mom of two with ADHD, diagnosed as an adult. I have always believed that we were given free agency to choose what we want to do at any time. What we do with that agency shapes who we are. Those of us with ADHD also could have cognitive dysfunction, which can affect our ability to start tasks, complete them on time, and leaves us prone to procrastination. I have found that sometimes we just need a micro step in the right direction to break this and to give ourselves grace when it happens.

I have inattentive ADHD, which is more common in women and harder to diagnose, but I didn’t know that until I was nearing my 30s. The rest of my life before that was spent fighting it and hiding it from others. I fully believed I was broken at times, and that brought on its friends: depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

I always struggled to maintain friends growing up, probably because ADHD made me impulsive, unreliable, and made my friends feel I wasn’t listening when my brain decided it wasn’t going to wonder about something else instead. Surprisingly, despite this, I found the love of my life and was married at age 19. We have been married for nearly 14 years. My husband had a diagnosis of ADHD as a child and took medicine for it to get through long hours at work and college. Since we were married, we struggled to keep a tidy home. We both valued being wise with our money. So, when someone was giving away a free TV that we honestly didn’t need, we’d store it in our tiny one-bedroom apartment. Giving away clothes? A side table? Books? Old sheet music? We’ll take it. When kids came around, these things included baby clothes, baby wipes warmer, toys, and more baby clothes. It started with an extra box here or there that we would wait to unpack when we had a house. Eventually, we were up to our ears in extra stuff for our house—stuff that didn’t have a place in our one-bedroom apartment. We had one baby by this time, so what was the solution to our problem? We needed a bigger place, of course! So, we found a two-bedroom apartment. Now it all extra fit in our second bedroom. I hated it, but not enough to do anything about it. Yet. After all, we needed those things eventually, right? And it would be a waste of money to get rid of it, right? Well, the real estate of that second bedroom became much higher when COVID hit and my husband had to transition to being a remote employee or not work, and I was pregnant with our second child. I was beyond ready to not sleep with my toddler. I had to get my act together and fast!

A guiding hand led me to Marie Kondo and her art of discarding. Finally, I was on a path to answers. Still oblivious to ADHD sabotaging my efforts at this time, but I was on the right path. Once there was less in the house, there was less for my ADHD to mess with. I finally discovered ADHD on social media, of all places. I have since been diagnosed and put on a low-dose medication to help. It has helped regulate the emotional fluctuations that I was used to but didn’t need in my life. 

I have learned so much about myself, ADHD, and, most importantly for my family, keeping a tidy home where everything has a place. I became a pro at getting myself to do stuff even when I really don’t want to. I have to. I’m a mom, and I chose to be the main caretaker and homemaker of our household. I know that there are other moms out there who think they’re failing and are trying to figure things out. I’m here to help you!

Keeping our household running is now a pleasure instead of a chore. It’s hard work but also satisfying. I thought learning consistency was impossible with my ADHD, but through breaking it down into smaller, sometimes micro steps, there is always something good I can do to move forward. Like Anna from Frozen, I can do the “next right thing.”

Throughout my experience, I have learned from heartache, frustration, failure, and desperation. I have gained a sense of forgiveness, gratitude, perseverance, and love. Through routine, self-care, self-grace, and learning more about ADHD, I have learned to overcome my faults by strengthening my weaknesses, finding my strengths, and utilizing them.

From my own journey with ADHD, I’ve developed a unique understanding and empathy for other moms facing similar struggles. Having lived through the challenges of ADHD from childhood into adulthood, I know firsthand the difficulties of managing daily life, relationships, and responsibilities. My resilience has helped me overcome these obstacles, and I’ve developed practical strategies like using Marie Kondo’s tidying methods, setting deadlines, and creating daily habits. This commitment to self-improvement, learning from resources, and seeking professional help allows me to offer relatable and actionable advice. By sharing my personal growth and setbacks, with shameless transparency, I aim to inspire and support other moms to take control of their ADHD and reduce chronic overwhelm.

I’m here to give you the cheat sheet I wish I had through all of this to get my house in order sooner, to not feel constantly like I’m going to implode if I see one more mess that needs my attention, and finally take time for myself to genuinely relax. We deserve it, mommas!

As a woman with ADHD, doing stuff that is fun comes easy. Dropping the guilt for that took time, but I got there. Now I take a few minutes or several minutes a day doing stuff that I love. I reread Harry Potter, sit down and watch an old Disney favorite with my boys, listen to my favorite podcasts while doing the daily boring chores that just need doing, and sit in my car singing along to my favorite song before coming in and unloading groceries. All this is good! And letting myself do it without guilt, helps me get through the stuff I don’t want to do and have struggled my whole life to do.

Learning about ADHD and how to better function with it has made me a more attentive friend, more productive family member, more caring mother, and more loving wife.

I was so desperately lost before. I didn’t even know there was a way out of the fog. Please explore my blog and see if there’s something that can help you! My blog shares my experiences learning how to tame my ADHD brain, and my Favorites page has products that have helped me manage life with ADHD.

Together, let us stand tall and proud, celebrating the unique gifts that ADHD brings to our lives and embracing the challenges with courage and resilience. For in the end, it is our struggles that shape us into the individuals we are meant to be, leading us towards a brighter and more hopeful future. Life is good. We are meant to be happy AND productive. There, we can find joy in the balance.